Comments on: Would You Post a Personals Ad in a W4W Forum?

By: Jamie

Jamie — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 12:05:31 +0000

I think it’s inappropriate for FTM guys to post in a W4W forum intended for women. If you are FTM you identify as a male in terms of gender, so no matter what your sexuality is ie what you’re attracted to, you should only be posting on M4W or M4M forums.

Otherwise it’s a bit creepy, like you’re posing as someone you’re not, with intention to mislead the other unsuspecting party.

Not a gentleman thing to do at all.

By: Aaron J

Aaron J — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 15:40:11 +0000

I posted on the M4W before and had no luck (I was honest about myself). So than I posted on the W4W and got a few responses from some bi girls…one whom I have been with for over 2 yrs now.

By: Marcus

Marcus — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 02:48:04 +0000

Obviously the biggest problem here is that gender is still seen as male or female. Transgender or gender queer people of the world are still forced to define themselves as either male or female regardless of what their body looks like or how they feel inside. I am a trans guy, I prefer to present as male but I also appreciate and indulge my female side as well. While I have no interest in existing as a conventional woman, there are parts of my soul that are definitely more feminine than masculine, (again as defined by tradition and culture). I am a guy who loves a lot of the “boy stuff” but also has a crafty lady and a thrifty shopper sharing this body. Why isn’t there is a place where someone can just talk about WHO they are without having to define WHAT they are? If that was the case maybe people could open their minds and learn to LOVE someone they might never have dated. Sure you know what you’re looking for but if the package it comes is the only thing keeping you from it….

By: Mike Fitz

Mike Fitz — Mon, 14 Jun 2010 19:54:04 +0000

I have an ad on a W4W site and have met a few queer women who are interested & interesting-my ad states right on it that I am transgender and I have my photo up so they know what I look like.

I prefer to date queer women and the one site that I have had success with happens to be a W4W site.

By: ZDale

ZDale — Mon, 24 May 2010 02:26:41 +0000

So where does a woman who wants to date a FtM go? I can’t seem to get connected.

By: carrie

carrie — Sat, 22 May 2010 21:01:05 +0000

Posting there is fine so long as the ad is truthful, and up front. Women searching the W4W section are expecting to find biological women. If you aren’t a biological woman, just say so, so people don’t end up feeling deceived.

By: Dan

Dan — Sun, 16 May 2010 14:24:25 +0000

I think I’d post as a guy, but I’d tell the truth. I think that I’d rather look for a site that is women looking for transmen.

By: Eamon

Eamon — Thu, 06 May 2010 11:47:35 +0000

(FYI I personally do not go for bodies or genitals or looks. But I do enjoy women more most of the time. Guys have their bonuses too; but I like boobs a lot so generally I date women. Also, I’d never put an ad in one of these things. Also I’m more genderqueer than trans.. But.. I’m leaning towards T and such, as scary as that admission is.)
SO considering my own tastes are not super-common… I guess it would depend on how far I’d transitioned. I wouldn’t want to offend anyone who WAS picky, so if I hadn’t had bottom surgery I’d advertise in the W4W or W4M column, with a note about being trans… If I had, I’d advertise in the M4W or M4M and add a note about being trans; again avoiding upsetting anyone.
It’s not because I think your junk makes you a man or a woman, but because I know that some people do, and I wouldn’t want to piss anyone off.

By: Jools

Jools — Mon, 05 Apr 2010 17:15:13 +0000

I am a gay transboi, but I wouldn’t want to meet other women in a sexual content. I feel if a transman gay or not. If they are seeking a girl that should know deep inside that they are either a male or female.. I have never seen myself as anything but male, and all my partners in life have been male…

By: Jay

Jay — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 06:42:56 +0000

I am a FtM, on hormone and done with top surgery. Physically I am always passed as a man. I always identified as one in the public but I dont mind being ‘out’ to the LGBT community. When comes to looking for friends or partner (am fine with either queer or straight women) I still look into our community group. I tried the straight classified and found out that most of the straight women disappear when the topic ‘queer’ being mentioned. Plus this straight women will start telling their friends to check and be aware of the id/name in the ad. This will lead to straight men writing in trying to be ‘God’ to change you. This is also one of the reason I am not comfortable being ‘out’ to the straight. As for W4W, the most is no response. But of course i will state clearly that I am a FtM/Transmen in such ad.
By the way, correct me if I am wrong, I dont find any ads for Transmen looking for women or women looking for Transmen in my country or neighborhood.